Generational Curses: How to Stop A Generational Family Curse
Have you heard of generational curses? Are you worried your family might be affected by one? Here’s the full rundown on this type of “curse” and how to effectively stop a generational family curse in modern times. And yes, they are real.
What Are Generational Curses?
When I first heard the term generational curses, I was skeptical. Then again, I’m skeptical when it comes to curses in general. Most people who believe they are cursed aren’t truly cursed by someone else, they’ve cursed themselves by making bad decisions. And therein lies the question: are generational curses a result of dark magic put on a family OR does someone in the family make a bad decision that begins the curse cycle? It’s most often (99.9% of the time), the latter.
The Christian Definition: Sins of the Father
What is a generational curse, exactly? There are different definitions depending on the person and the religion. Christians will tell you it’s because of a person in the family rebelling against God. Some sources claim the curse began with the first man who rebelled against God – Adam. I don’t believe in sin or original sin, so I don’t subscribe to this belief. By blaming Adam, we are putting the blame on someone else and excusing ourselves for our own problems.
My Modern Definition
I am a modern pagan, and I believe in generational curses. But I don’t believe in sin. Generational curses, in my opinion and experience, are bad decisions made by an ancestor that influences their descendants in various ways. What happens is a parent influences the child in a negative way, and that child continues the parent’s bad behaviors. And the cycle perpetuates itself generation after generation. Ultimately, the responsibility to end the “generational curse” lies with us. If we don’t end it, we often feed into it and the cycle continues.
What are some examples of generational curses?
Generational curses can be any negative cycle a family traps themselves in, including: alcoholism, drug addictions, gambling, poverty mindsets, marital affairs, divorces, abuse, and many more. Most people can identify at least one of these generational curses on one or both sides of their family lines. I know I can!
The Beginning of a Generational Curse
How do these generational curses develop in our families? It’s simple, really. Let’s say your great great great grandfather fought in a war and saw terrible things happen in his lifetime. This had a negative effect on his mental state and he began self medicating with alcohol. His son and daughter dealt with his alcoholism growing up. One said she would never drink like her father, but the other became depressed and began drinking too. And the cycle continues with his daughter, and on and on, down to you.
Sometimes these generational patterns are so rooted in our bloodlines that we don’t know when they began or who started them. But inevitably, who started the curse doesn’t really matter. What matters is what decisions you make, and whether you will break the generational curse or perpetuate it. When you break a negative family pattern, you not only heal yourself but you help heal the bloodline (past, present and future).
How to Stop a Generational Family Curse in 4 Crucial Steps
If you want to learn how to stop a generational family curse, you’re going to have some work cut out for you. It’s going to be difficult and take time and energy. You won’t heal generations of pain and negativity in one night. The sooner you accept that, the better. It’s a long, hard path, but one that is necessary.
1. Identify the Generational Curse(s)
You might think you know the generational curse on your family immediately, but I recommend taking your time with this step. Take a week, a month or even a few months to reflect on your family’s negative patterns. For me, I found a few that needed to be addressed. Some may be obvious, for instance a pattern of alcoholism, while others are hiding in plain sight (poverty mindset, emotional abuse, etc.)
2. Evaluate Your Decisions and Lifestyle
This is probably the hardest part of the process – self reflection. Let’s face it, no one wants to identify our own bad life choices. Most people go through life completely oblivious to their own bad decisions. These are the same people who blame everyone else for their problems. When, in reality, they are the only ones to blame. Self reflection isn’t going to feel good. But it’s necessary to stop a generational family curse, heal yourself, and heal the bloodline. The healing begins with you.
3. Make a Plan and Execute
Once you’ve identified your family’s generational curses, and acknowledged if you’ve perpetuated them, it’s time to make a plan to break the cycle(s). Are you a smoker? Stuck in the mindset of being poor? Whatever it is, now’s the time to fix it. Stop smoking. Stop believing your poor and there’s no way to be successful. Take the necessary steps to improve your life and break the generational curse.
4. Ancestral Healing
When you take responsibility for your own life decisions, you break the generational family curse. You begin the healing process. Not only for yourself, but for future generations AND the past. Our ancestors are on the other side, always watching and guiding us. When we break negative family cycles, our ancestors are honored and healed as well. You are essentially mending a rip in your family’s tapestry. Re-growing broken branches on your family’s tree.
In addition, I recommend working with your ancestors as a spiritual practice. When you connect with your ancestors on the other side, something magical happens. You open a door for their blessings to come through. Healing continues the more you get to know your ancestors. Sometimes it’s painful, but the work is necessary. If you’re here reading this article, it means you’ve been called to do this work. To heal your bloodline. To break your family’s negative cycles. It starts and ends with you.